written by Deborah Lowrey
I was at a party last night. Things, as at most parties, were fun at first. Then at the end of the evening, people having had too much to drink, get into the arguing mode. Arguing about relationships. I listened, I added a few things, but mostly listened.
What I kept hearing were people that were looking for a lifetime guarantee in their relationships and if there wasn't one, they just give up. Most of us have this inward hope that there really is this guarantee. We hope that our relationship will last a lifetime, the other person won't change, you won't fall out of love, things will be happy 24/7.
Where do we get this? Who said that there was a guarantee? I can guarantee you this, life is difficult, things change, and there is no knight in shining armour riding on a white horse that doesn't poop up the stall.
I heard people saying that they didn't want to take a risk. Sure, it's a risk to open your heart to love. But it is a far greater risk to close your heart to love. Or maybe, not really. Consider this, to close your heart, you have a 100% chance of nothing. To open your heart, maybe a 50/50. Seems the only guarantee is to not love. But I've not met a person yet that didn't want to really be loved.